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People claim they do many things in the name of love. Love gets a bad wrap when it comes to people who enable. I believe those that enable, intellectually believe that they are taking their actions from love, but emotionally it is about control.  Enabling


HOW I READ THE ENERGY OF YOUR BUSINESS I have worked as a professional psychic for over 25 years helping people either face to face or through the use of a psychic hotline in all areas of their lives.  Most people expect to see me


This is an excerpt from my book: YOU ARE WISER THAN YOU THINK You can read the full book in the On Line Book Store YOU ARE ALWAYS COMMUNICATING In every moment that you are alive you are communicating on some level, otherwise you could


WOMAN’S POWER  One thing I remember so profoundly is when I was coming from a life as a professional wrestler and moving into a life of a spiritualist, was a day when I was sitting around at a metaphysical center with some witches, psychics, astrologers


WRESTLING WARRIOR TO SPIRITUAL WARRIOR I was born in Perth, Western Australia. The product of a disrupted childhood, I developed different gifts just to survive my physical reality that constantly threatened me. I was always psychic and I learned at an early age when someone


People claim they do many things in the name of love. Love gets a bad wrap when it comes to people who enable. I believe those that enable, intellectually believe that they are taking their actions from love, but emotionally it is about control.

 Enabling is not a selfless act but a selfish act. It is all about what the enabler needs, and nothing of what their “victim” needs. Yes, I said victim, because those who are targeted by enablers are victims.

 They get their lives stolen just like a murder victim, the only difference is they are still breathing. But they still have had their lives stolen from them. Their connection to spirit is high jacked by someone who doesn’t believe there is a higher purpose to life and only they can save them.

 Enablers are predators. I know that seems like a hard thing to say,  but it is true.  They are drawn to people with low self esteem, or personality traits that lends them to taking the ‘easy path.” Perfect pray for enablers. In many cases, enablers groom their victims over time, especially in close relationships, like lovers or family, but saving the day so many times that the person doesn’t notice that they are losing their personal power.

 Enablers have lost their faith in a “greater power.” They have somehow had their personal experience with a greater source stolen from them. Somewhere in their lives they have felt like a failure, and inside still do,  and the only way their can validate their lives is to “save others,” only the saving requires that the other person lose their life.

You simply can’t save someone who is empowered and doesn’t need saving.

 It is imperative to the enabler that the person they target never gets a sense of their own power by their own means. They may become empowered as a direct result of the enablers actions, but at some point that will slip away and the cycle will start again. For example, they let addicts live their lives without change instead of getting some sort of rehab help, such as Delamere Rehab or others that you can see when you click here at their website: https://cocainerehabcentre.co.uk/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-for-addiction/ for more information.

 Enabler’s personal disconnect from spirit causes them to believe that those they target need them. That without them they couldn’t survive. That they are the only one that “loves them” and if they don’t step in and “take care” of them, no one will. For the enabler, there is no greater plan at work. They believe that their lack of faith in spirit extends to their targets: that they are not loved by spirit either.

 If you are an enabler you always find fault in the other person. They need to be flawed, useless, unable to provide for themselves. You need to be able to justify taking over their lives and stepping in between them and their higher power in order to “protect them” and exalt yourself.

 Enablers deny others the right to their karma, to their life experience. They isolate others from the very things that empower them and give them strength of character: life. They deny others the right to have their own life experience, good or bad.

 Enablers manufacture a false, limited life for their victims and all paths that lead away from the enabler are buried beneath the carnage of lies, failures and lost dreams.

 Enablers are cruel and selfish. They ruin lives. They corrupt love. And the sad thing is: they still never find any peace for themselves. They live within a nightmare that they have created.

 Their life becomes trapped in the lie that they create in order to justify their own existence and reasoning for their actions.

 And the really interesting things about enablers, and maybe the most ruthless part about is:  most enablers know that they are enabling.

They see the damage they are doing. They get told by others. They see it in their subjects life and the fact that they are not changing. But they don’t seem to care, or from my experience, want to care. What they need is more important. Their personal struggle with a ‘greater purpose,”  drives them to have to prove that only they can step in and save others.

 Enablers are not stupid people. They are very aware of what they need but they somehow get lost and instead of focusing on what they need to change in their own lives, they zero in on others who are not as strong: isolate them from the world, position themselves as sole provider and live out their need to be right or effective through the scenario that is created, unfortunately, not only at  the expense of the other person, but also themselves.

Enabling is not a full  filling life condition.

I see it as a lonely one,  a haunted one.

Regardless of how this article may sound I sincerely feel for those who are compelled to enable.

I pray for anyone who does not know that they are loved for who they are by a greater force than human kind.

But that does not excuse the choices enablers make.

Being an enabler is not a death sentence. There are ways to stop.

 The first one is to reconnect with spirit. With something higher than yourself.

The next step is find someone else to take over as care taker of the person you are enabling.

This will be a hard, but if you don’t do it you won’t be able to help yourself or the the other person.

 These are only a couple of steps. There are many more. There is also the dynamic you have created with the people that you have been enabling that needs to be addressed. After having lived in the “fish bowl’ you created for them, they are not going to be able to just break free.

 It takes time. But it is doable.

 But the most important step, in my opinion anyway, is really learning to trust that something greater than you is the solution to not only their lives but also your own.


How often have we seen someone doing something that is obviously harming them and think that they need to change but we just dismiss it as if “we know” that they never will be able to.  They have been that way for so long they will never change.

Really?  Are you sure they are the only problem in this equasion? What about your inability to invest any energy in the possibility for them to change?

Change is not easy, for any of us and in order to change we need to set the stage so we can be successful and one of the first things we need to do is to get away from all those that “love us” because often that very love is a big part of the problem because whether they know it or not, it is conditional..  They love ‘us” in the way that they know us and are often not able to love us if we are different.

This was something I had always known and it became even more amplified for me when I adopted a special needs dog.  She was born with a brain condition that left her deaf and very sensitive and compulsive which was playing out in negative ways.

When I took her on she was extremely fear aggressive, chronic spinning and barking and was believed she could never be out of a crate for any period of time.

Six months later: she no longer lives in a crate,  no longer spins insanely in one spot as she used to,  only barks when she is playing and her fear aggression is down from a 12 out of 10 to a 3.  Does she still have the ability to digress?  Absolutely,  I have seen her do it,  but I also noticed that when she did it she was either stressed because she was integrating a new situation of someone was handling her who knew her from before and were still fearful of her,  or perhaps, for her.  Either way, their fear and in-ability to let her be who she is now, even though they have seen the change in her, triggered her insecurities, which she will probably always have, or she regressed to being aggressive.

So, when I look at this whole situation and I consider with what we go through as people, I realize how often in life we ask people to change and then by our own unwillingness to believe in them and the fact they can, we don’t allow them to.

As if they don’t have enough obstacles to overcome in their own process they also have to drag along with them all the “doubters” and “nay sayers” who throw their former failures in their face, reminding them, “this is who you are to me,” and though you may be changing, I am not willing to let you change by believing in you.

“I own you” and who you were so you can’t change and reclaim your life. You owe me and what I went through with you when you were” like that.” You hurt me and you owe me! Or, you inconvenienced me and you owe me!  Why should you get to change and be free of that when I still live with it.

No, I won’t believe that you can change because that will let you off the hook for all of the things you have done and you need to pay for them, at some level, so you need to stay the way you were.

I have been there for you all the times you needed me and you owe me. You don’t get to change and leave me behind!

Is this what we are going through at an unconscious level?

I know there is the belief that people don’t let me people changes because it means we have to change too, and I definitely agree with that.

But what I witnessed with this little dog has a touch of “my will’ against yours.  Who you want to be versus who I say you can be.

So, I guess the point to this is when you casually ask someone to change; quit smoking, lose weight, go to school become more, you need to remember you have a part in that.

 Especially, if you are a family member or a loved one.

If they change there is no way that you or your life is going to stay the same.

And if you insist that they do stay the same you are either denying the other person their chance to change or you are creating scenario where they will have to be free of you so they can change.

So when you ask them to change also ask yourself:


People cannot change inside a goldfish bowl. Their change will send out a ripple effect and if you are close to them you will be affected by it. And for the most part, it will mainly require you being willing to see them in a new light.  Let go of the person you knew.  But sometimes that is not so easy to do.



 One thing I remember so profoundly is when I was coming from a life as a professional wrestler and moving into a life of a spiritualist, was a day when I was sitting around at a metaphysical center with some witches, psychics, astrologers and numerologists and healers. I became aware as I looked around this room at the indescribable power these women possessed.  None are large framed or particularly tall.  Nor were they menacing, well not in that moment.

 They would seem like your regular gals if you saw them on the street, but sitting here in the metaphysical store with full permission to be who they were they were brimming over with this unfathomable power and I couldn’t help but think back to the times my father would abuse my mom, sis and me.

 Maybe he sensed this power.  Maybe at times it rose up in something we said or did, or perhaps in our very way of being submissive, that he was fearful of our ability to stand up to  him, silently. And, maybe, though our physical forms wept, were bruised and screamed out, maybe from where he was, he could sense this power, this unspeakable power.

 A power that he knew he did not and could not possess.  This power that thrives within every woman.  That can rise up and we can walk away from the abuse.  We grab up our children and walk out.  Maybe men who abuse sense this power and know that they can not beat it.  They cannot claim it as their own. How frightening it must be to see someone half your size but yet still has an essence about them that screams out through their stillness, “You can’t beat me. You can kill this body but I will be born stronger and I will be born wiser next time we meet, it will be different.”

 Feeling that power in the room, I would have been scared if I were a man that needed to abuse women to feel in control of my life.  If I had been someone that needed to name something, to make it tangible so I could kill it or capture it. Within these women, and within myself thrives this power.

 The strength of spirit: the strength to rise up again.

To be made of a fabric as strong as steel and soft as down.

 In that moment of awareness I felt safe, I felt invincible and I felt pity for my dad, who with all his physical strength, and violent temper and power to withhold money and his love, that he would never know this power as his own.  It would always haunt him, and leave him lonely because his wretched soul could not grow fast enough to befriend it and I can only imagine how lonely he must have felt to be able to see and sense this power in women and know he can never have it, it would never be his.  To be physically superior in strength and still know deep within, it will never be enough to win.



I was born in Perth, Western Australia. The product of a disrupted childhood, I developed different gifts just to survive my physical reality that constantly threatened me. I was always psychic and I learned at an early age when someone would ask me “what are you looking at?” to always answer, “oh, nothing.”

 One of the few things my family did do together was watch the wrestling on television every Saturday. All the greats like Bobo Brazil and Killer Carl Cox. It was our weekend ritual. I spent many a happy afternoon wrestling myself out in the yard. Quiet a feat in itself. Actually, it only looked like I was wrestling myself, I had plenty of company!

 By my teens I was going to see the matches when they came to town and this one night on the side of the ring was a phone number and address of the people who put up the ring. Within a week I was learning to wrestle in the annex attached to my local church. It was so close I could walk. The wrestling school was run by Ali Musa the Turk, a veteran wrestler who had wrestled extensively in London. He taught me well, and being the only girl I learnt to wrestle like one of the boys.

 Time passed. I became Sue Sexton and one of the top 10 women wrestlers in the world. Held the world title, and to this day, still the only woman wrestler to come out of Australia and claim international fame.

.During the wrestling days my spiritual growth was probably non-existent. I was too busy trying to survive physically, the spiritual world was beyond my comprehension. But by the 1980’s the wrestling was starting to dry up for the women. I was now in New York waiting tables and writing the music and singing with my rock band at night. I don’t know how it started, but somehow I started getting tarot readings. I went through the co-dependant stage of calling my reader every other day wanting answers to my life. I’m sure I drove him nuts. Finances forced me to become more self sufficient and I bought my first deck and started reading for myself. Soon all my “old friends” started talking to me again. Back then, I was dabbling in white magic, burning candles, casting spells. It turns out my reader was the head of a witches Covent in lower Manhattan. Who knew?

 Hoping to get work with one of the local wrestling federations I went to Atlanta, Georgia as the south was one of few areas where wrestling still thrived.

Work was scarce, so I went in search of a reader to help me with my life. I found a place called The Inner Space. I had never considered reading for someone else, never the less for a living. Through a course of events I found myself sitting in the front room of the Inner Space day in, day out, waiting for my chance to read someone who wandered in who wasn’t with one of the more established readers. It took time, but I held out.

I think the main thing I had to overcome as a reader: if I was going to be of any help to anyone I had to first trust myself and that I was connected to the light or God, if you will. I also had to learn to be okay with being the “bad guy.” It was important to me to deliver the information to the people truthfully, not just telling them what they wanted to hear. In order to do that trusting that my intent was pure and I was a “good person” was imperative. I had been the “bad guy” for many years as a wrestler. I knew someone had to play that role in order for things to play out in the way that was necessary. I had perfected that. Trusting I was a good person took more work. It took a lot of work, but finally the two worlds did meet and the physical warrior transcended into a spiritual warrior and I’ve never looked back.

Being the “bad guy” is my gift.  I understand how healing it is.  I understand that everyone is okay to be the hero and to be liked by all.  It takes a different kind of person who can put their ego aside, and be okay to be the one that isn’t always liked.  That sometimes delivers the hard news.  And this rarely is not about death or losing a job.  It is normally more around having to let someone know that they are the problem in the situation.  That they are the one who is being dishonest or deceitful in a relationship.

I have found, people like to think that you can’t really “see them,” even when they come for readings.  And many readers go along with that, if “seeing the person” might risk the person not enjoying their reading.

And I get that, but when you are truly in service you are in service for the benefit of the other person, not yourself, so you put their needs first, and sometimes we all need to hear the things we don’t want to hear.

And though the truth may not be easy to take; once it is out and you have been “seen” by someone, a weight gets lifted off your shoulders and you can start again from that point forward.


This is an excerpt from my book: YOU ARE WISER THAN YOU THINK

You can read the full book in the On Line Book Store


In every moment that you are alive you are communicating on some level, otherwise you could not exist. Communication is an energy exchange that occurs as you interact with life. Often, it is the communication that occurs unconsciously between people that shape our lives and relationships without our even knowing it. Communication is in every essence of our being. Communication lies within our words, our actions, our thoughts, life examples and also, in the absence of any of these things.

 What’s that you say?

We all know that, to some degree, the problems we face from day to day are due to a lack of communication. Many of us have a mythical belief that if we knew the right words at the right time our problems would be solved.

If it were only that simple.

  Modern version of communication

For many of us, if we were asked for the definition of “communication” or “to communicate,” we might say:

 “Communication: the ability to express yourself and your views in order to influence others and get what you want.”

 Though the dictionary meaning is:

Communicate – to convey knowledge or information about: to reveal by clear signs: to transmit information, of thought or feeling, so that it is satisfactorily received.           From the Merriam-Webster dictionary

Communicate – to express oneself in such a way that one is readily and clearly understood: to reveal clearly, to manifest.       From Your Dictionary.com

In this book we are going to consider a new way to communicate with people, our pets, our world and ourselves. Let’s start by redefining the value system for communication.




 Simply put. The more you care about someone or something, the harder you try to help them understand.

Redefining Communication

1        Good communication is not about you it is about “us.”

2        To communicate well, the other person’s needs must be equal to our own.

3        For our communication to be heard we must speak in terms that the other can identify with.

4        Sound communication allows the other person to move at a pace that is comfortable for them and acceptable for us.

5        Effective communication will give them enough information to make a decision that is in their best interest as well as ours.

6        Sincere communication comes from our heart and not our head.

7        For us to communicate our needs we must first understand our needs and take responsibility for them.

8        Courageous communication is when we are willing to point out our own shortcomings as quickly as we would, theirs.

9        Communication makes a difference when it shares the truth of a situation, as we know it at that time, whether it is in our favor or not.

Lost communication

1        You cannot lie and communicate at the same time.

2        You are not communicating if you are withholding facts, using niceties or changing the information in a way so that you “win.”

3        Communication is not occurring if the only voice you can hear is your own.

4        Your communication has failed if the other party comes away with nothing.

5        Communication cannot begin if you have no interest in learning about the other party and their needs.








I have worked as a professional psychic for over 25 years helping people either face to face or through the use of a psychic hotline in all areas of their lives.  Most people expect to see me helping others with relationship questions and love issues but are surprised how effective my gift is when it comes to business.

 As a psychic, I read and interpret energy.  For me it as real as a written resume you may look at before you hire someone.  The main difference with a written resume, you can only know what you read on that resume: it is one dimensional, for me,  people’s resumes are in the form of “energy” so when I read them I get what they choose to tell me and also what they don’t tell me.  I read there whole “existence” as it were.

 Every one can read energy at some level.  For example: you choose a color you wish to paint your room with and you go to the hardware store with your color sample in hand and you start matching it to other colors to find the right match. You may think you are matching  by what “looks right” but if you pay more attention, you will realize many look fine but don’t feel right, especially when you come down to the final decision.  What you are doing at that point, is reading the energy of the color and unconsciously you are matching the energies of the colors you are looking at and seeing if they blend.  They don’t only have to energetically blend with each other; they also need to blend with your energy and the energy of your home.  That’s why many of us, myself included, have stood in front of all those color samples for seemingly hours thinking to ourselves, “this shouldn’t be this hard, I thought I wanted blue but it just doesn’t feel right.”

 I have been helping people find the right blend for their business’s in many ways for many years.  From selecting staff to finding the right name or image for their business and doing it with a high level of accuracy, because when read correctly, energy is your truest guide because it can’t lie, it is what it is. For any emerging business use the Paystubs.net services for the business payments.

 Every state of being has its own energy: money, fear, success, joy, sadness all vibrate at a certain rate and it is consistent. My expertise is reading that energy and matching these energies to each other, so if you tell me the name of your company and then give me the name of a person of interest I will scan their energy against your energy, just as you did when you held up those color patches, and in detail, I can tell you in which areas this person will and won’t blend with your company’s or your personal energy.

 My expertise enables me to help professional people to be better prepared for appointments and decisions by giving them an insight as to what to expect from the people and the situation.  Not only does it do the obvious, save you money and time, but it also provides you with the opportunity to truly connect with these people and find a perfect blend that will bring about a win -win situation for everyone at every level.



The only fool is the one that closes their heart,

 It takes courage to love and wisdom and a belief that God is with you,

 Because of our connection to God we have agreed to give others a chance to love,  to love God and to love us:  it is only by our willingness to open our hearts and put ourselves at emotional risk can this occur.

 Sometimes they fall short:  no matter how hard we try:

 But God has not failed to see every effort or moment you put in to loving “one of his flock” and God has not let your pain go unheard by the divine’s heart.

 Of course, that knowing does not stop the feelings we have as humans.

 But just know, loving is one of the greatest challenges God will ever ask of us, and as great as the highs, are the lows.

 But I believe being in service to spirit includes having the courage to love…

 So I salute you…….



 To be in service for the greater good is a most glorious thing!

 It’s one of the greatest honors that you can bestow upon yourself. There are many ways to be in service; as a practitioner, priest, teacher but the way I enjoy “service” the most is through my everyday life.

 Let me tell you one of my most profound experiences with the kind of “service” I am talking about. I was buying my first house. A wonderful house on a dirt road up in the canyons, just north of Los Angeles. (Which in itself was pretty special) I knew by the “normal way” things happen my chance of getting this house were slim to say the least. My tax return said I made almost nothing, my job was commission only and I was a single woman.  Not good. I remember sitting in the yard of this house while it was on the market, praying for a way for  “me” to make this happen. How if “I” got this house I would take care of it. “I” would do anything to have it.  No matter how much I prayed everything kept falling through, it seemed like there was no way it could happen. (I find it funny, we are often so spiritual, but you put us in a real life crisis and all we’ve learnt goes out the window and we return to the old ways of doing things, like begging, in my case!) My dream was slipping away.

 This one day, I ‘d been praying for hours. I started thinking about my nature. I knew I was a creature of “service.” I liked to see others succeed. It’s my very essance. Then to want this house for “me” went against everything I was! I changed my prayer quick smart! I stared to pray in earnest, “let me be victorious! Let me have this house for every person out there like me who is struggling to buy a house. For every person like me who mainstream society said “no” to. Let me be victorious for all these people. Then let the energy my victory generates be held somewhere im a big etheric energy bank and be available to anyone who might need it.” Amazingly, things started to happen. It was not easy by any means, but that house became mine and I lived here for six years.  During the escrow I met a young woman who told me she didn’t think she could ever buy a house. Because of my belief that the power of my success would support her, I encouraged her to go for it. She found a house and closed escrow before I did!

 So, if life has no meaning. If everything you do seems to be a struggle, try this for one day. Your small daily victories do count! Don’t underestimate your power when you give your life to “service!” Smiling at a stranger and sharing your energy when you would rather look away is a great victory. Having the strength to say “no” to the friend who needs to learn to stand on their own is a hard thing to do. Knowing that somewhere, someone else is gaining strength from your strength. It empowers you to stay strong.

 Tell spirit:  use me! Give your permission for the energy your life creates to be made available to anyone else who is going through what you are going through. That’s it. Try it for one day and expect a miracle!



 Have you ever met someone who, while they are smiling and letting you know how great it is to see you, you know in your gut, they are being insincere?  There is no rational reason for it, you may not have ever met this person before, but you just know that they are “faking it”.  This is a perfect example of communication occurring at an energetic level. You are hearing their words, but you are responding to what is beneath their words, their energy, and you intuitively don’t trust them.

Verbal communication, our words, is the last form of communication that people receive from us.  Our actions and energy of our true feelings or intent will influence them before our words ever reach them and by the time our words do reach them, if what we say doesn’t match our energy they have already received from us, they won’t trust us.  They won’t know why, they may even feel guilty because based on “your words” it seems they should, but something in the back of their minds, in their gut instincts, throws up a red flag and, consciously or unconsciously, they will withhold from you:  either their emotions, information or actions. They don’t do it to be mean, it is merely a reaction to your original insincerity:  it’s a survival reaction we all have when we feel we are being misled and possibly, at risk.

So, if you are having communication conflicts with people in your life, if, in your opinion you are saying all the “right things” but those around you are not “responding accordingly,”   consider what your “energy” might be telling them.

Energy can not lie.  It is what it is.  People trust their gut instincts for a reason: gut instincts are never wrong  If you want to have better relationships with your family, your business relationships and friends, be mindful that your words match what you feel, because if you are not being honest at an energy level they will know it before you even open your mouth and though they may nod their heads and smile when you talk to them,  something will not sit right and whatever you hoped to gain will be limited and you will eventually  “never being taken at your word.”

Remember, before you “say a thing,” your energy has already spoken.