This blog is a direct copy from my book ” YOU ARE WISER THAN YOU THINK”. This information will set the stage for becoming more informed on how to integrate your three selves successfully and easily in the following blogs. For easy translation: Spirit is also called the Higher Self, Emotions are also known as [...]
One of the techniques I teach every day to help people become more effective in their lives is the integrating of the three selves. These “selves” are; emotions, intellect and spirit. For something to be effective in our lives and for us to grown and flourish from it each of these aspects must have a [...]
Let’s talk a little more about the emotional self, sometimes known as the small self but not to be confused with the “inner child”. The concept of our Inner Child is some thing totally different which we can discuss at a later date. So things to know about our emotional self are: The emotional self [...]
People claim they do many things in the name of love. Love gets a bad wrap when it comes to people who enable. I believe those that enable, intellectually believe that they are taking their actions from love, but emotionally it is about control. Enabling is not a selfless act but a selfish act. It [...]
This blog is a direct copy from my book ” YOU ARE WISER THAN YOU THINK”. This information will set the stage for becoming more informed on how to integrate your three selves successfully and easily in the following blogs.
For easy translation: Spirit is also called the Higher Self, Emotions are also known as the Smaller self and Intellect is also known as the Middle Self.
Higher Self or Spirit
The higher self is not motivated by our needs but by what is good for us as a whole being. The higher self knows the direction our life needs to take in order for us to accomplish what it is we came here to do. The higher self is not clouded by emotions, and therefore, not mislead by the illusions that can confuse us and take us off our path. It is a powerful teacher and the most direct way to deliver information that will truly make guidance effective.
It can take information and gradually release it into the person’s awareness until they can understand it.
Higher selves will work together as a team. This means if you consciously work from your higher self then your higher self will, in turn, work in harmony with the higher self of others thus achieving the best result for all concerned.
The Higher self often doesn’t relate to the material world, and though the ‘let go and let God’ is a wonderful process, it is necessary to have a balance of the three selves to live within that belief.
Middle Self or Intellect
The middle self is the bridge between the higher self and the smaller self or emotional self. It is our voice of reason. The middle self gets more involved in the processing of information and helps to keep us centered so we are able to reason.
The middle self is great for appealing to when you want to move someone out of emotion and into reason.
If you are too much in your middle self, you will find that you may lack imagination, flexibility and spontaneity. You will also be over critical of yourself and others. The middle self needs the influence of the higher and the smaller self in order to keep itself balanced.
Smaller Self or Emotional Self
This is a wonderful part of our make up and can be our strongest ally, worst enemy or most damaged and frightened child. Our emotions are extremely powerful when it comes to the way in which we communicate.
The smaller self is a great team player once it trusts you. If you can get someone (this includes yourself) emotionally involved in something you have a great start on the situation. Once you win the smaller self’s trust and willingness to co-operate, you are then ready to move forward to gaining the trust and co-operation of the middle and higher selves.
If your smaller self is running your life, you will be on an emotional roller coaster and constantly dealing with drama. The smaller self needs the wisdom of intellect and protection of spirit to be able to make sound decisions that can be put into action in your life.
Who is running your life?
Do you have trouble being around people who are different from you? If you are low key, do high-energy people wear you out? Do you find that you do the same thing and go the same places because it’s easier? Do you have the same excuses for everything; cost too much, takes too much time, I’ll do it later when I have such and such in place. This is how our life looks when we have allowed one of our selves to dominate our choices instead of all three of your selves influencing your decisions.
See if this seems familiar:
Your middle self is running the show if you spend much of your time trying to stay realistic in dealing with life. Paying those bills, being very responsible and having no time for fun until that is taken care of. And then when that is taken care of, there will be something else that has to be done first. Play never happens.
If your smaller self is in control you may forget to pay the bills because you have been out shopping. Or, you may find yourself so caught up in the drama of life that you are too emotionally stimulated that you can’t seem to come up with a plan to solve the problem. You find yourself spinning your wheels or on an emotional roller coaster.
Or last but not least, your higher self. Not being grounded: as in; what bills, oh, I need to pay those?
You will find your life will become a lot more fun and productive once you start to work with each aspect of your self. There will be times when it will benefit you to let one self be more dominant, but the important thing is that it is a conscious choice.
Here are some situations which all of us have been in where we allow one self to “run the show” to get the job done. Even though the other selves are still present, we consciously let one self dominate.
1 It’s time to do your taxes so you consciously move into your middle self, the intellect, and get it done.
2 It’s time to play with your kids, so you allow yourself to lighten up and go out and play.
3 You need to “be big” about something and let someone have their way even though you might not agree. You know they need to win this time so you put your ego on hold and step into your higher self and allow.
Being able to let one self “lead” is a good sign that your three selves are clear on what their task is and as a result, you are able to focus and get the job done effectively and easily with your three selves working as a team.
When each of the selves wants to be in charge at the same time there arises an internal struggle. In this situation our life can become a casualty of the struggle and we lose control over the out come of the situation.
Some scenarios could be:
Small self in charge -
You sit down to do your taxes but have to have the television on knowing full well that you are setting yourself up to get distracted so a one hour job, takes three. And the real kicker is you know that is what will happen and do it anyway.
Middle self in charge –
Perhaps, with good intent, when you play with your children you have an overwhelming desire to point out faults instead of letting it go and enjoy the playtime.
When the spiritual self is not present -
Or, no matter how much you would like to let that person have his/her way you just have to have the last word as they walk out the door even though you know, doing so, will gain nothing positive.
So, what’s going on? Basically, your three selves are all fighting to run the show and there is no communication between the selves or with your conscious mind so there is no exchange of information occurring. Everyone is fighting over the same bone, and all are only coming away with a piece. As a result, you are having a constant struggle to get anything completed.
Your middle self doesn’t trust your child to have fun because your child is not responsible.
Your child doesn’t like your middle self because it doesn’t know how to lighten up and keeps messing things up by trying to force everything.
Your higher self isn’t heard by either of the others because they are always fighting over who is right, and therefore your spiritual life is getting almost no attention and you feel like you have no purpose.
And you wonder why you can’t make a decision about what you want to do in your life!
In the next couple of blogs we are going to put some of this into action, get all of the aspects talking and bring about internal peace and external success in your life.
One of the techniques I teach every day to help people become more effective in their lives is the integrating of the three selves. These “selves” are; emotions, intellect and spirit. For something to be effective in our lives and for us to grown and flourish from it each of these aspects must have a piece in it. Our intellect tries to protect us by ruling the material world and tries to create stability as far as finances, shelter, food and security. The emotional self only values things if they are fun. In order to feel safe the emotional self needs to feel it can identify with something; that they are understood or accepted by others and hence not feel alone and the spiritual aspect is driven by us always trying to become more and seek out that makes up truly happy without it being completely defined by our intellect or our emotions.
Often when we go and hear someone speak and they get us gunned up and we come out feeling like we can change the world for the next couple of days, and then suddenly reality sets in and it falls away and seems like it almost never happened, is a perfect example when each of the selves is not equally involved in a decision in our lives. The speaker appealed primarily to your emotional self. Their objective normally is to get us so inspired that we over ride the reasoning that the intellect might be wanting to throw at us: the voice of reason, then you leave go back to your life and then the intellect will start to “shoot down” all the dreams by making it clear that this won’t work because it doesn’t make “cents.” It is impractical. It is not safe.
This happens all the time with all of us. The outfit we had to have that we never wear or returned. The job we hate but we stay in because it pays the bills. The person we love but can’t stand any more.
All of these types of situations and telling you that you are missing one of these essential pieces.
It is either: no fun; not secure, financially or it doesn’t move you towards being happy and a higher purpose.
My next couple of blogs are going to look at each of these selves and further break down their role in our lives. You will be amazed at how quickly things can turn around once you use this technique in every decision you make. Once you get your head around it, it will be fun and easy to do and their is no limits to what you can accomplish.
Let’s talk a little more about the emotional self, sometimes known as the small self but not to be confused with the “inner child”. The concept of our Inner Child is some thing totally different which we can discuss at a later date.
So things to know about our emotional self are:
The emotional self feels safe when it is able to identify with the person or situation at hand. Similar to a child the emotional self wants to be liked, needs to be heard and doesn’t respond well to any form of judgement. It is very important when someone is tied to their emotions that things seem fun and uncomplicated. They do not do well with reality when it confines them or limits their perception of freedom.
When communicating with someone who is controlled by their emotions, trying to “talk sense into them” is a total waste of time. All they are hearing is that you don’t respect them, understand them or care about their feelings and what is important to them and they will dig in and it will be war!
If you feel that you are a very logical and reasonable person then you are probably governed more by your intellect so when you come up against someone in their emotions you will get totally frustrated and instead of trying to bond with them you will alienate them by trying to reason with them to take a rational point of view; preferably yours. Good luck with that.
When trying to communicate with someone who is an emotional being you need to first speak in their terms. With emotional people everything relates to the senses not the mind. Say you are describing the car you want to buy. An intellectual person will say something like:
I have researched all the data on this car to be sure it to have decent gas mileage, and from what I can determine it’s by a reputable dealer and will have a good resale price for when we want to upgrade later.
an emotional person;
I love this car. It can go really far on a tank of gas so I will be able to get from home to the ocean for less than $10 so i can spend what I have saved on lunch. This brand has great colors and fabrics in the interior so it feels wonderful when you are sitting in it. It’s engine make a great sound too, so it is really exciting to drive! And sales man has the same type of dog I have, how neat is that.
Now these are extreme examples. What you ideally want is something in the middle, a blend of the emotions and the intellect.
To get anywhere with someone who is emotional you must find a point that you can bond on, emotionally. They have to trust that you are ‘like them’ enough to not judge them and disregard what they are invested in. Once you have done that then you can try to introduce some logic to them, again from the point of view of the senses and what would be fun.
So, you need to get your emotional friend to go to the doctor and they don’t want to. Stating all the dangers of not going and the fact that they need to take care of themselves will not work. Coming more from the point of view that you know it’s scary and you will help them find a doctor that they like and when you are done you can go for ice cream or to do something fun to celebrate will be a lot more successful.
Our intellect feels safe when it is financially provided for.
Emotions feel safe when they know they have others that like them and understand them.
People claim they do many things in the name of love. Love gets a bad wrap when it comes to people who enable. I believe those that enable, intellectually believe that they are taking their actions from love, but emotionally it is about control.
Enabling is not a selfless act but a selfish act. It is all about what the enabler needs, and nothing of what their “victim” needs. Yes, I said victim, because those who are targeted by enablers are victims.
They get their lives stolen just like a murder victim, the only difference is they are still breathing. But they still have had their lives stolen from them. Their connection to spirit is high jacked by someone who doesn’t believe there is a higher purpose to life and only they can save them.
Enablers are predators. I know that seems like a hard thing to say, but it is true. They are drawn to people with low self esteem, or personality traits that lends them to taking the ‘easy path.” Perfect pray for enablers. In many cases, enablers groom their victims over time, especially in close relationships, like lovers or family, but saving the day so many times that the person doesn’t notice that they are losing their personal power.
Enablers have lost their faith in a “greater power.” They have somehow had their personal experience with a greater source stolen from them. Somewhere in their lives they have felt like a failure, and inside still do, and the only way their can validate their lives is to “save others,” only the saving requires that the other person lose their life.
You simply can’t save someone who is empowered and doesn’t need saving.
It is imperative to the enabler that the person they target never gets a sense of their own power by their own means. They may become empowered by a direct result of the enablers actions, but at some point that will slip away and the cycle will start again.
Enabler’s personal disconnect from spirit causes them to believe that those they target need them. That without them they couldn’t survive. That they are the only one that “loves them” and if they don’t step in and “take care” of them, no one will. For the enabler, there is no greater plan at work. They believe that their lack of faith in spirit extends to their targets: that they are not loved by spirit either.
If you are an enabler you always find fault in the other person. They need to be flawed, useless, unable to provide for themselves. You need to be able to justify taking over their lives and stepping in between them and their higher power in order to “protect them” and exalt yourself.
Enablers deny others the right to their karma, to their life experience. They isolate others from the very things that empower them and give them strength of character: life. They deny others the right to have their own life experience, good or bad.
Enablers manufacture a false, limited life for their victims and all paths that lead away from the enabler are buried beneath the carnage of lies, failures and lost dreams.
Enablers are cruel and selfish. They ruin lives. They corrupt love. And the sad thing is: they still never find any peace for themselves. They live within a nightmare that they have created.
Their life becomes trapped in the lie that they create in order to justify their own existence and reasoning for their actions.
And the really interesting things about enablers, and maybe the most ruthless part about is: most enablers know that they are enabling.
They see the damage they are doing. They get told by others. They see it in their subjects life and the fact that they are not changing. But they don’t seem to care, or from my experience, want to care. What they need is more important. Their personal struggle with a ‘greater purpose,” drives them to have to prove that only they can step in and save others.
Enablers are not stupid people. They are very aware of what they need but they somehow get lost and instead of focusing on what they need to change in their own lives, they zero in on others who are not as strong: isolate them from the world, position themselves as sole provider and live out their need to be right or effective through the scenario that is created, unfortunately, not only at the expense of the other person, but also themselves.
Enabling is not a full filling life condition.
I see it as a lonely one, a haunted one.
Regardless of how this article may sound I sincerely feel for those who are compelled to enable.
I pray for anyone who does not know that they are loved for who they are by a greater force than human kind.
But that does not excuse the choices enablers make.
Being an enabler is not a death sentence. There are ways to stop.
The first one is to reconnect with spirit. With something higher than yourself.
The next step is find someone else to take over as care taker of the person you are enabling.
This will be a hard, but if you don’t do it you won’t be able to help yourself or the the other person.
These are only a couple of steps. There are many more. There is also the dynamic you have created with the people that you have been enabling that needs to be addressed. After having lived in the “fish bowl’ you created for them, they are not going to be able to just break free.
It takes time. But it is doable.
But the most important step, in my opinion anyway, is really learning to trust that something greater than you is the solution to not only their lives but also your own.
How often have we seen someone doing something that is obviously harming them and think that they need to change but we just dismiss it as if “we know” that they never will be able to. They have been that way for so long they will never change.
Really? Are you sure they are the only problem in this equasion? What about your inability to invest any energy in the possibility for them to change?
Change is not easy, for any of us and in order to change we need to set the stage so we can be successful and one of the first things we need to do is to get away from all those that “love us” because often that very love is a big part of the problem because whether they know it or not, it is conditional.. They love ‘us” in the way that they know us and are often not able to love us if we are different.
This was something I had always known and it became even more amplified for me when I adopted a special needs dog. She was born with a brain condition that left her deaf and very sensitive and compulsive which was playing out in negative ways.
When I took her on she was extremely fear aggressive, chronic spinning and barking and was believed she could never be out of a crate for any period of time.
Six months later: she no longer lives in a crate, no longer spins insanely in one spot as she used to, only barks when she is playing and her fear aggression is down from a 12 out of 10 to a 3. Does she still have the ability to digress? Absolutely, I have seen her do it, but I also noticed that when she did it she was either stressed because she was integrating a new situation of someone was handling her who knew her from before and were still fearful of her, or perhaps, for her. Either way, their fear and in-ability to let her be who she is now, even though they have seen the change in her, triggered her insecurities, which she will probably always have, or she regressed to being aggressive.
So, when I look at this whole situation and I consider with what we go through as people, I realize how often in life we ask people to change and then by our own unwillingness to believe in them and the fact they can, we don’t allow them to.
As if they don’t have enough obstacles to overcome in their own process they also have to drag along with them all the “doubters” and “nay sayers” who throw their former failures in their face, reminding them, “this is who you are to me,” and though you may be changing, I am not willing to let you change by believing in you.
“I own you” and who you were so you can’t change and reclaim your life. You owe me and what I went through with you when you were” like that.” You hurt me and you owe me! Or, you inconvenienced me and you owe me! Why should you get to change and be free of that when I still live with it.
No, I won’t believe that you can change because that will let you off the hook for all of the things you have done and you need to pay for them, at some level, so you need to stay the way you were.
I have been there for you all the times you needed me and you owe me. You don’t get to change and leave me behind!
Is this what we are going through at an unconscious level?
I know there is the belief that people don’t let me people changes because it means we have to change too, and I definitely agree with that.
But what I witnessed with this little dog has a touch of “my will’ against yours. Who you want to be versus who I say you can be.
So, I guess the point to this is when you casually ask someone to change; quit smoking, lose weight, go to school become more, you need to remember you have a part in that.
Especially, if you are a family member or a loved one.
If they change there is no way that you or your life is going to stay the same.
And if you insist that they do stay the same you are either denying the other person their chance to change or you are creating scenario where they will have to be free of you so they can change.
So when you ask them to change also ask yourself:
ARE YOU READY TO CHANGE?
People cannot change inside a goldfish bowl. Their change will send out a ripple effect and if you are close to them you will be affected by it. And for the most part, it will mainly require you being willing to see them in a new light. Let go of the person you knew. But sometimes that is not so easy to do.
WOMAN’S POWER
One thing I remember so profoundly is when I was coming from a life as a professional wrestler and moving into a life of a spiritualist, was a day when I was sitting around at a metaphysical center with some witches, psychics, astrologers and numerologists and healers. I became aware as I looked around this room at the indescribable power these women possessed. None are large framed or particularly tall. Nor were they menacing, well not in that moment.
They would seem like your regular gals if you saw them on the street, but sitting here in the metaphysical store with full permission to be who they were they were brimming over with this unfathomable power and I couldn’t help but think back to the times my father would abuse my mom, sis and me.
Maybe he sensed this power. Maybe at times it rose up in something we said or did, or perhaps in our very way of being submissive, that he was fearful of our ability to stand up to him, silently. And, maybe, though our physical forms wept, were bruised and screamed out, maybe from where he was, he could sense this power, this unspeakable power.
A power that he knew he did not and could not possess. This power that thrives within every woman. That can rise up and we can walk away from the abuse. We grab up our children and walk out. Maybe men who abuse sense this power and know that they can not beat it. They cannot claim it as their own. How frightening it must be to see someone half your size but yet still has an essence about them that screams out through their stillness, “You can’t beat me. You can kill this body but I will be born stronger and I will be born wiser next time we meet, it will be different.”
Feeling that power in the room, I would have been scared if I were a man that needed to abuse women to feel in control of my life. If I had been someone that needed to name something, to make it tangible so I could kill it or capture it. Within these women, and within myself thrives this power.
The strength of spirit: the strength to rise up again.
To be made of a fabric as strong as steel and soft as down.
In that moment of awareness I felt safe, I felt invincible and I felt pity for my dad, who with all his physical strength, and violent temper and power to withhold money and his love, that he would never know this power as his own. It would always haunt him, and leave him lonely because his wretched soul could not grow fast enough to befriend it and I can only imagine how lonely he must have felt to be able to see and sense this power in women and know he can never have it, it would never be his. To be physically superior in strength and still know deep within, it will never be enough to win.
I was born in Perth, Western Australia. The product of a disrupted childhood, I developed different gifts just to survive my physical reality that constantly threatened me. I was always psychic and I learned at an early age when someone would ask me “what are you looking at?” to always answer, “oh, nothing.”
One of the few things my family did do together was watch the wrestling on television every Saturday. All the greats like Bobo Brazil and Killer Carl Cox. It was our weekend ritual. I spent many a happy afternoon wrestling myself out in the yard. Quiet a feat in itself. Actually, it only looked like I was wrestling myself, I had plenty of company!
By my teens I was going to see the matches when they came to town and this one night on the side of the ring was a phone number and address of the people who put up the ring. Within a week I was learning to wrestle in the annex attached to my local church. It was so close I could walk. The wrestling school was run by Ali Musa the Turk, a veteran wrestler who had wrestled extensively in London. He taught me well, and being the only girl I learnt to wrestle like one of the boys.
Time passed. I became Sue Sexton and one of the top 10 women wrestlers in the world. Held the world title, and to this day, still the only woman wrestler to come out of Australia and claim international fame.
.During the wrestling days my spiritual growth was probably non-existent. I was too busy trying to survive physically, the spiritual world was beyond my comprehension. But by the 1980’s the wrestling was starting to dry up for the women. I was now in New York waiting tables and writing the music and singing with my rock band at night. I don’t know how it started, but somehow I started getting tarot readings. I went through the co-dependant stage of calling my reader every other day wanting answers to my life. I’m sure I drove him nuts. Finances forced me to become more self sufficient and I bought my first deck and started reading for myself. Soon all my “old friends” started talking to me again. Back then, I was dabbling in white magic, burning candles, casting spells. It turns out my reader was the head of a witches Covent in lower Manhattan. Who knew?
Hoping to get work with one of the local wrestling federations I went to Atlanta, Georgia as the south was one of few areas where wrestling still thrived.
Work was scarce, so I went in search of a reader to help me with my life. I found a place called The Inner Space. I had never considered reading for someone else, never the less for a living. Through a course of events I found myself sitting in the front room of the Inner Space day in, day out, waiting for my chance to read someone who wandered in who wasn’t with one of the more established readers. It took time, but I held out.
I think the main thing I had to overcome as a reader: if I was going to be of any help to anyone I had to first trust myself and that I was connected to the light or God, if you will. I also had to learn to be okay with being the “bad guy.” It was important to me to deliver the information to the people truthfully, not just telling them what they wanted to hear. In order to do that trusting that my intent was pure and I was a “good person” was imperative. I had been the “bad guy” for many years as a wrestler. I knew someone had to play that role in order for things to play out in the way that was necessary. I had perfected that. Trusting I was a good person took more work. It took a lot of work, but finally the two worlds did meet and the physical warrior transcended into a spiritual warrior and I’ve never looked back.
Being the “bad guy” is my gift. I understand how healing it is. I understand that everyone is okay to be the hero and to be liked by all. It takes a different kind of person who can put their ego aside, and be okay to be the one that isn’t always liked. That sometimes delivers the hard news. And this rarely is not about death or losing a job. It is normally more around having to let someone know that they are the problem in the situation. That they are the one who is being dishonest or deceitful in a relationship.
I have found, people like to think that you can’t really “see them,” even when they come for readings. And many readers go along with that, if “seeing the person” might risk the person not enjoying their reading.
And I get that, but when you are truly in service you are in service for the benefit of the other person, not yourself, so you put their needs first, and sometimes we all need to hear the things we don’t want to hear.
And though the truth may not be easy to take; once it is out and you have been “seen” by someone, a weight gets lifted off your shoulders and you can start again from that point forward.
This is an excerpt from my book: YOU ARE WISER THAN YOU THINK
You can read the full book in the On Line Book Store
YOU ARE ALWAYS COMMUNICATING
In every moment that you are alive you are communicating on some level, otherwise you could not exist. Communication is an energy exchange that occurs as you interact with life. Often, it is the communication that occurs unconsciously between people that shape our lives and relationships without our even knowing it. Communication is in every essence of our being. Communication lies within our words, our actions, our thoughts, life examples and also, in the absence of any of these things.
What’s that you say?
We all know that, to some degree, the problems we face from day to day are due to a lack of communication. Many of us have a mythical belief that if we knew the right words at the right time our problems would be solved.
If it were only that simple.
Modern version of communication
For many of us, if we were asked for the definition of “communication” or “to communicate,” we might say:
“Communication: the ability to express yourself and your views in order to influence others and get what you want.”
Though the dictionary meaning is:
Communicate – to convey knowledge or information about: to reveal by clear signs: to transmit information, of thought or feeling, so that it is satisfactorily received. From the Merriam-Webster dictionary
Communicate – to express oneself in such a way that one is readily and clearly understood: to reveal clearly, to manifest. From Your Dictionary.com
In this book we are going to consider a new way to communicate with people, our pets, our world and ourselves. Let’s start by redefining the value system for communication.
WORDS TO THE WISE
TO THE EXTENT THAT YOU CAN COMMUNICATE IS TO THE EXTENT THAT
YOU CARE TO.
Simply put. The more you care about someone or something, the harder you try to help them understand.
Redefining Communication
1 Good communication is not about you it is about “us.”
2 To communicate well, the other person’s needs must be equal to our own.
3 For our communication to be heard we must speak in terms that the other can identify with.
4 Sound communication allows the other person to move at a pace that is comfortable for them and acceptable for us.
5 Effective communication will give them enough information to make a decision that is in their best interest as well as ours.
6 Sincere communication comes from our heart and not our head.
7 For us to communicate our needs we must first understand our needs and take responsibility for them.
8 Courageous communication is when we are willing to point out our own shortcomings as quickly as we would, theirs.
9 Communication makes a difference when it shares the truth of a situation, as we know it at that time, whether it is in our favor or not.
Lost communication
1 You cannot lie and communicate at the same time.
2 You are not communicating if you are withholding facts, using niceties or changing the information in a way so that you “win.”
3 Communication is not occurring if the only voice you can hear is your own.
4 Your communication has failed if the other party comes away with nothing.
5 Communication cannot begin if you have no interest in learning about the other party and their needs.
WORDS TO THE WISE
YOU HAVE NO INTENTION OF
COMMUNICATING IF YOUR SOLE
MOTIVATION FOR COMMUNICATING IS TO WIN.
YOUR INTENTION IN THAT CASE IS TO DOMINATE.
HOW I READ THE ENERGY OF YOUR BUSINESS
I have worked as a professional psychic for over 25 years helping people in all areas of their lives. Most people expect to see me helping others with relationship questions and love issues but are surprised how effective my gift is when it comes to business.
As a psychic, I read and interpret energy. For me it as real as a written resume you may look at before you hire someone. The main difference with a written resume, you can only know what you read on that resume: it is one dimensional, for me, people’s resumes are in the form of “energy” so when I read them I get what they choose to tell me and also what they don’t tell me. I read there whole “existence” as it were.
Every one can read energy at some level. For example: you choose a color you wish to paint your room with and you go to the hardware store with your color sample in hand and you start matching it to other colors to find the right match. You may think you are matching by what “looks right” but if you pay more attention, you will realize many look fine but don’t feel right, especially when you come down to the final decision. What you are doing at that point, is reading the energy of the color and unconsciously you are matching the energies of the colors you are looking at and seeing if they blend. They don’t only have to energetically blend with each other; they also need to blend with your energy and the energy of your home. That’s why many of us, myself included, have stood in front of all those color samples for seemingly hours thinking to ourselves, “this shouldn’t be this hard, I thought I wanted blue but it just doesn’t feel right.”
I have been helping people find the right blend for their business’s in many ways for many years. From selecting staff to finding the right name or image for their business and doing it with a high level of accuracy, because when read correctly, energy is your truest guide because it can’t lie, it is what it is.
Every state of being has its own energy: money, fear, success, joy, sadness all vibrate at a certain rate and it is consistent. My expertise is reading that energy and matching these energies to each other, so if you tell me the name of your company and then give me the name of a person of interest I will scan their energy against your energy, just as you did when you held up those color patches, and in detail, I can tell you in which areas this person will and won’t blend with your company’s or your personal energy.
My expertise enables me to help professional people to be better prepared for appointments and decisions by giving them an insight as to what to expect from the people and the situation. Not only does it do the obvious, save you money and time, but it also provides you with the opportunity to truly connect with these people and find a perfect blend that will bring about a win -win situation for everyone at every level.
THE COURAGE TO LOVE
The only fool is the one that closes their heart,
It takes courage to love and wisdom and a belief that God is with you,
Because of our connection to God we have agreed to give others a chance to love, to love God and to love us: it is only by our willingness to open our hearts and put ourselves at emotional risk can this occur.
Sometimes they fall short: no matter how hard we try:
But God has not failed to see every effort or moment you put in to loving “one of his flock” and God has not let your pain go unheard by the divine’s heart.
Of course, that knowing does not stop the feelings we have as humans.
But just know, loving is one of the greatest challenges God will ever ask of us, and as great as the highs, are the lows.
But I believe being in service to spirit includes having the courage to love…
So I salute you…….
